Relationships
"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
- C.G. Jung
isn't this a neat quote? i don't even remember where i read it but i've been wanting to blog about this for a few months now.
don't you sometimes wonder how different your life would be if you never met a certain person? i think its pretty crazy how each individual has so much potential to leave a good or bad impression
it also makes me wonder how often you meet someone that you have no chemistry or connection with, where as the quote put it, there is no "reaction". does that even exist? and what factors cause this sort of inert reaction to people? is it an insensitivity on our part?
i am probably guilty of being so inert with some people that they will never remember who I am and vice versa.
anyway, most of you are probably thinking that this quote is most apt for people who are actually friends. that in time, all relationships somehow change you for better or for worse. this is certainly very appropriate but i often remind myself that that is what romantic relationships should be like as well. when we put aside our pride and respect the other person, we can't help but BE changed. relationships need to be give and take people say...but maybe not.
too often people enter relationships with a naturally selfish attitudes. an attitude of expectancy. does this person meet my list of "requirements"? does this person fit well with me? does this person really like me? they are all performance based questions suited to meet the needs of me, myself and Darrell.
i've been challenged lately though, to think about what you can do, to serve the other person; instead of what you can get, it should be about what you can give. of course, thats REALLY hard to do. which depresses me even more, cos that will make it even harder to find a person that i'm willing to do that for. of course, theoretically, i'm falling into the trap of seeing if this person is "worthwhile", and again viewing their qualifications.
don't get me wrong, qualifications are important. ah...what do i know? i have no idea how to go about it. but i just thought i'd share some random thoughts... =D
an even better question: WHAT DO YOU THINK?
posted by Cheryl & Darrell | 8:09 PM
3 Comments:
what do i think? i think if a person just leaves the whole relationship thing with God and doesn't over analyze every relationship on the burners, then one day the wonderful surprise of realising you have found her and she has found you will happen a lot more naturally and peacefully. we have wasted a lot of time in north american churches pursuing "God's woman for my life". i believe that if your heart is toward God then whoever you may eventually marry is her. whoever you are dating, God has expectations of you to respect and do what is the most loving thing for her, and if that is who you marry, well buddy, she just became God's woman for you. chill and God can get a lot more done if you don't allow stress of analysis and constant personal introspection to get in the way. remember Jonah who actually tried to get out of God's will? he didn't succeed. so if you actually WANT God's will for your life, including spouse, it is going to be next to impossible to miss it or her. praying for you.
I agree with sue. Our hearts are swayed sooo easily and in the pursuit of a lasting relationship we often forget about God. We become soo focused on finding "the one" and make assumptions that God must be concerned with the same thing...when really He just wants us to pay attention to him and then He'll sort the rest out.
On another note...I totally think that you can meet people and have no reaction to them. Look at the people that you "meet" on the bus or in line up. Technically you are meeting them because you have been introduced to them as a person also living on this planet...yeah you may not know every little detail about their lives but you know they exist...sometimes this can leave a reaction...such as when you see a homeless man on the corner...the knowledge of his existence and hardship brings saddness...or the man driving the boxster with a gorgeous model in the passenger seat...brings a reaction of envy. But there are people you meet and you have no reaction until you are given opportunity to get to know them a little better.
Also...what's the deal with the pic of the hulk...? Kinda seems disjointed...wanna explain?
the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. Bruce Banner, and gamma rays combine to produce the very VISUAL demonstration of the extent of transformation that can happen in the Hulk. =)
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